So called Online Classes in Lockdown

    With the emergence of Covid-19, we have come across with some new words like lockdown, quarantine, social distancing, online classes etc. etc. Oh yes! I have so much to say about the fuss of these online classes as I am experiencing it since last year and don't know how long these kids have to bear this pain of having online classes. Yes, to me the online classes are no more an enjoyment to the little ones. I always believe in fun learning, which should be the best approach to nurture a child. It's the best way to motivate the young minds to more and more innovative ways of learning. 

    But when I see my son attending his class since 7.25 in the morning without any motivation & zeal to learn something new, I really feel sorry for him. It's very painful to see your child unhappy and dis-satisfied. With so many classes each day along with endless projects, assessments and exams during this pandemic, when they are unable to go out and stucked up at home for more than one year, are we not suffocating them ? Is it the way we should raise our little ones ?  When kids are missing the enjoyable aspects of going to school is it not the responsibility of the teachers to make online learning something innovative ? No, they are only focussed on finishing the syllabus and making them learn but not at all bothered about how to learn. Nobody cares about their mental health. Lectures are being given on improving their mental health, but have we ever asked what makes them happy ? Months after months everyday they see their friends on the other side of the screen, but still can't talk to them, can't share the tiffin, can't even say hello to them. The young ones are in more distressed condition than us during this pandemic situation. 

    We adults are only respinsible for the behavioural change of these kids during lockdown. On one hand we are asking them to reduce the screen time, not to play video game on mobile, not to explore with these electronic gadgets, but we are the ones who expect an eight year old to attend the online classes on his own, handle the laptop & mobile on his own, make pdf files on his own and mail it back to teachers. Are we not hypocrites ? What a stupid education system we are coping up with. With so much burden of studies without any outdoor activities, we are really snatching their childhood. If this continues, its a real worry about the future of our next generation.

Kids in Lockdown

We all are going through a strange phase of our lives during this lockdown period. It is putting an immense stress not only on adults but also to the kids, who are neither allowed to go to school, nor even going outside to play.
  Having a 7 year old kid at home, I can feel how this lockdown has brought an extreme hardship to these little ones. Getting up early in the morning, going to school, studying and playing with friends there, is a major part of a school going kid and suddenly when this schedule changes, their whole world has changed. Yes, kids love waking up late and staying home with parents, but when this weekend fun becomes a regular routine, even they start feeling bored.
The extended period of lockdown  all over the world has led the education sector to start online classes, though in a country like India it is not possible for all the students to be a part of online learning. Even though who are lucky to have the facility of online learning, every morning attending  online classes is becoming scary due to various network issues.
 A child is happy when he goes to school and meet his friends and teachers personally. But this pandemic has changed their daily routine. They are too small to learn everything virtually.  They could see their friends on the computer screen, but still they cant talk to them. They cant give a hug to their besties. Its really sad for them. Kids are immensely missing all the fun they have at school.
Though the kids are having their music classes, drawing classes & dance classes online, they cant join the games classes. They cant go outside to play with a ball. Playing outside in open air, not only improves their physical & mental health, but also develop essential social skills, which kids in lockdown are being deprived off.
Since they are spending the whole day at home, kids are more prone to watch television, mobile phones and playing video games. And cutting down the screen time for the sake of their health without any fight has become a great challenge for the parents, at present.
With the emergence of lockdown, everyday my son asks when the lockdown will be over and he can go outside. He still believes that after summer vacation his school will be re-opened and finally he could visit his new class. For every kid, this year's summer holidays will be different. They cant go on a vacation, they cant go outside to meet their loved ones, they cant go out for a movie and have their favourite Pizza and even cant step out from home to breathe a fresh air. 
Kids can not express their stress, anxiety & loneliness as we can. But still self isolation is posing a psychological effect on these young minds. They don't know how this Covid 19 has threatened our lives &  economy. They don't know about the vulnerable condition of migrant labour and how thousands of people in India are starving these days, they only know that a Virus has changed their daily lives and  the Zombie virus is taking away all the fun they could have. So its our duty to make them understand that even if the crisis is over and we are back to our normal lives, our lives will never be as normal as before.

আমার মা

 মায়ের জন্য কোন আলাদা দিন বা দিবসের প্ৰয়োজন পরে না।  মা কে মনে করতে বা ভালবাসতে হলে মাতৃ দিবস পালন করতে হয় না।  তবুও মনে হল, যে মানুষটির জন্য আজ আমার অস্তিত্ব এই পৃথিবীতে , যার অক্লান্ত পরিশ্রমে আজ আমি বড় হলাম, তাকে নিয়ে দু চার কথা আজ লিখতে ইচ্ছে করল।  

ছোট থেকেই আমি বড্ড বেশি 'মা' 'মা' করি।  মা যেহেতু স্কুল শিক্ষিকা ছিলেন , এখনো মনে আছে আমি তখনো স্কুলে ভর্তি হইনি , তাই প্রতিদিন মা  যখন স্কুলে চলে যেত ভোরবেলা আমি কাঁদতাম আর প্রতিদিন আমার ঠাকুমা আমার কান্না থামাতো।  তার পর মা যখন স্কুল থেকে ফিরে আসত , তখন কি আনন্দই না হত।   তারপর যখন স্কুলে ভর্তি হলাম , একটু বড় হলাম , তখন আবার স্কুল থেকে ফিরে বাড়িতে মা কে দেখতে না পেলে খুব রাগ হত।  এখনো মনে পড়ে বেশ অনেক বড় বয়স অবধি আমি কোথাও থেকে বাড়ি ফিরে যদি মা কে দেখতে না পেতাম খুব রাগ হত  আর কষ্ট পেতাম।  

ছোট থেকেই মায়ের কাছে আর যাই কর পড়াশুনো করাটা ছিল খুব ইম্পরট্যান্ট। সন্ধেবেলা ঘড়িতে ৬ টা  বাজা  মানেই বই খাতা নিয়ে পড়তে বসে যাওয়া। আর ছোট থেকেই আমি খুব ফাঁকি বাজে ছিলাম , পড়াশোনাটা যতটা কম করা যায় আরকি। এই নিয়ে কম বকুনি খাইনি।  তাই সব সময় বলতাম ' উফ , কারুর মা যেন স্কুল টিচার না হয় '........ শুধু পড়ার বই নয় , গল্পের বই থেকে শুরু করে যেকোন ম্যাগাজিন পড়ার নেশা আছে মায়ের। প্রতি বছর বই মেলা থেকে অনেক বই কিনে দিত, যাতে আমার আর দিদির মধ্যেও বই পড়ার ভালবাসাটা জন্মায়।  

আজ  বুঝতে পারি  পড়াশোনার প্রতি যেটুকু ভালবাসা জন্মেছে তা , মায়ের জন্যই। এখনো মা পড়াশুনো নিয়ে থাকতে ভালোবাসে।  এখনো দেখি অবসর সময় মা হয় বই পড়ছে বা খবরের কাগজ।  এখনো মা সারাদিন খবরের কাগজের শব্দ-জব্দ করে সময় কাটায়।  বাংলা পড়তে গিয়ে এখনো যখন কোন কিছু বুঝতে অসুবিধা হয় , মা ই একমাত্র ভরসা।  

সবচেয়ে ভাল লাগার বিষয় ছিল মা আমাদের খুব বিশ্বাস করত।  মাকে ভয় পেলেও বন্ধুর মতন সব কথা মায়ের সঙ্গে শেয়ার করতাম।  এখনো সেই অভ্যাসটা  রয়ে গেছে।  

আজ মা আছে বলেই অনেক বাধা বিঘ্ন ও সমস্যার মধ্যেও আমি আমার প্রফেশন করতে পারছি।  দীর্ঘ সময় ছেলেকে বাড়িতে রেখে বাইরে কর্মরত থাকতে পারছি কেবল মায়ের জন্যই।  জানি আমার থেকেও মা বেশি খেয়াল রাখবে ওর ।  

আজ যেটুকু যা হতে পেরেছি তা কেবল বাবা মায়ের জন্য।  বাবার অবদানও কিছু কম নয়।  মাতৃ দিবস বলে যে শুধু মায়ের কথাই বলবা তা নয়।  

তবে মায়ের জায়গা কেও  কোনদিন নিতে পারবে না।  মায়ের ভূমিকা আমার জীবনে যা, তা দু চার কথায় লিখে ব্যক্ত করা অসম্ভব।  

আমার মা ই আমার  অনুপ্রেরণা । যদিও অসম্ভব তবুও চাইবো মা চিরটাকাল যেন আমার সঙ্গে থাকে।      

Life in Lockdown

My City of Joy has never been so quiet before. Being one of the citizens of the 1.3 billion people in lockdown, I am scared, I am restless and I am worried. The virus has threatened our lives and livelihoods and making us paranoid. Even after so many days of lockdown we are on the edge of uncertainty, unable to plan for the coming days. I cant be fearless, undeterred and unbiased anymore for whatever happening around us.  

Our life has changed since the emergence of the virus, sometimes it makes me feel that time has stopped for us. Days are passing by, but we are still on the same lane, neither moved forward nor backwards. 

Being a parent makes the job tougher. The sudden shut down of schools due to coronavirus has led the parents quarantined at home with the kids for an unending period and keeping them engaged & amused through out the day is indeed a big challenge. Though its a lovely opportunity for kids to spend the whole time with their parents, yet its not so easy to keep them boosted up all the time, when we know that we are going through a pandemic.

Since online classes have started, everyday after waking up I keep on watching my watch so that my son doesn't miss his classes. Above all the poor internet connection is an added stress to these online classes. Every kid I am sure becomes irritated if he cant join his classes on time and get distracted with the disturbance of network. 

Besides, giving the whole time & energy to the kids, since morning we are busy doing the various household chores. All our schedules have changed within the four walls of the house. Washing our hands and sanitizing the things are playing a major role in our life. The daily scene of my neighbourhood has changed. Instead of people going out for schools & offices in the morning they are now busy buying fruits & vegetables from the trolley standing in front of their houses, storing the groceries, medicines and other essentials with the fear of shortage of anything at anytime. 

I miss my work, I miss those noise of Court Premises, I miss wearing my black coat, and I  am desperately missing my busy schedule of the day. Spending so much time on social net working sites has become no other option left when you are stuck inside the house. 

I miss the loud sounds of various television serials coming from the nearby houses in the evening. It seems they too are keeping an eye on the screen for virus updates. The only topic that we are discussing at home is about covid19 and the only channels we are watching at home are news channels which are becoming disgusting day by day. In order to take any sound decision, the society must require a consensus of truth and for common people news media is the only gateway to know the truth. Unfortunately the biased & unfair news sources these days are making us more panic-stricken. I believe polarized news are more dangerous during an emergency situation, that we are facing right now. When the politicians of the country are more worried about their political future and profits, even during such a pandemic, I doubt, how secured we are in this country. Our future is in great danger. Unaware of the actual data and the present scenario.

Since childhood I have heard that in times of need, when we are in danger, when we are in fear, we should stay together, but this vulnerable disease has made us apart from each other. We keep on maintaining social distance with each other when we need each others support the most. Some are  unfortunate enough of not being able to say the final good-bye to their loved ones on their death beds. 

Amidst all these, I am borrowing my strength from the doctors and other health workers who are fighting in the fore front, I am gaining strength from those people who are associated with essential services and going out everyday, I get my strength from the sweeper whom I see everyday cleaning the neighbourhood and above all with the hope that someday we will get a way out to fight with this stupid virus. Perhaps God is testing our patience & tolerance of being human, but I am eagerly waiting for the day when we will wake up one day without the fear of getting infected and will be back to our normal schedule of the day.

শুভ নববর্ষ

আজ নববর্ষ।  বাংলা  ১৪২৭ সন। ঠিক বুঝে উঠতে পারছি না আজ কাউকে নববর্ষের শুভেচ্ছা জানানোর সময়  শুভ কথাটি বলব কিনা।  আজ তো আমাদের  সময় শুভ  নয়। আজ আমরা সবাই দাঁড়িয়ে আছি এক রণক্ষেত্রে।  যুদ্ধ করছি এমন এক জীবাণুর সঙ্গে যাকে আমরা সাধারণ চোখ দিয়ে দেখতে পাচ্ছি  না।   ভয় ভয় দিন  কাটাচ্ছি আর আশা করছি এমন একটি  ওষুধ বা ভ্যাকসিন এর , যেটি আবিষ্কার হলেই হয়তো আমরা স্বস্তির নিঃস্বাস ফেলব।  

নববর্ষ বাঙালিদের এক অন্যতম বড় উৎসব যার তোড়জোড় শুরু হয়ে যায় মাস  খানেক আগে থেকেই। চৈত্রের সেল থেকে শুরু হয়ে যায় রাস্তায় ট্রাফিক জ্যাম, মানুষের কেনাকাটি  আর আনন্দে মাতামাতি।  

কিন্তু এবার নেই কোন সেল , নেই কোন রাস্তায় ভিড় , নেই কোন উল্লাস , নেই কোন মাতামাতি।  এবারের  নববর্ষের দিনে মন্দিরে পুজো  নেই , নেই হালখাতার ভিড় , নেই নতুন জামা পরার আনন্দ। এ এক অদ্ভুত বর্ষ বরন করছি আমরা যেখানে শুধু মাত্র ক্যালেন্ডার এর পাতাটাই বদলে গেল কিন্তু হল না কোন উৎসব।  

আজ এই দিনটাতে ঠিক অন্যান্য বছরের মতন চোখ রাখলাম টিভির পর্দায় তবে সেটা বর্ষ বরনের  কোন প্রোগ্রাম দেখার জন্য নয় , আজ টিভি দেখলাম প্রধান মন্ত্রীর ভাষণ শোনার জন্য আর দেখছি ভারতে আরো কতজন প্রাণ হারালো।   

এখন আমাদের দিন কাটছে বাড়ির চার দেওয়ালের মধ্যে শুধু মাত্র নিজের পরিবারের সঙ্গে।  আজকের দিনটা কেটে যাবে অন্য একটা লকডাউন এর দিনের মতোই।  শুধু বদলে যাবে তারিখটা।  

তবে এত কিছুর মধ্যেও আশা করি  এই দুরদিন আমাদের খুব শীঘ্রই কেটে যাবে , কেটে যাবে আমাদের ভয় , দূর হবে বিষন্নতা , আমরা আবার একদিন ঘুম থেকে উঠে দেখবো নতুন এক পৃথিবীকে আর ফিরে পাবো আমাদের আগের জীবন , যেখানে থাকবে কোলাহল, থাকবে কর্ম ব্যস্ততা , থাকবে জীবনে বাঁচার নতুন আনন্দ।  

সবাইকে নব বর্ষের শুভেচ্ছা।  সুস্থ থাকো।  ভালো থাকো  আর ঘরে থাকো  ।

Staying Positive during Lockdown Days

Almost after 3 years I signed in to my blog to write something to make myself ease. After returning back to India I hardly have time to write anything . Even if I get some time on Sundays I never have the time to sit and write something new due to other responsibilities at home.
But the lockdown days have given me that time and opportunity to again pen down my feelings.
At present all our brains are occupied with this virus and all of us are fighting very hard to get rid off it. Even when I sat to write, nothing came into my mind except this stupid virus.
Since January I was regularly following various posts & news on social media regarding the outbreak of Corona Virus at Wuhan, China. That time only I came to know about the term lockdown and quarantine days. But this virus has kept on worrying me since February when my husband went to Italy for attending a conference and just after two days he returned back from Italy, the news of outbreak of the virus in Italy came forward. Everyone of us at home here in India were praying for his good health and were immensely tensed for the next 14 days. Fortunately everything went well and till now he is fine though the virus has affected badly in Finland too.
 At first I was very depressed to cancel our summer vacation to Europe and really upset for Jojo not being able to meet his father in the coming months. Till then I was worried but not scared.
But gradually the outbreak started in India and the situation became scary too. Slowly I stopped going to work, Jojo's school was shut down and the lockdown days began.
Staying with elderly parents and a 7 year old kid really made me worried about how to manage everything alone. But time and situation teaches us everything. After I stocked the groceries and compulsory medicines for my parents at home and asked the maids to be on leave, I literally locked myself with other members of the house . Still now we are strictly staying at home except stepping out to get the essential commodities that too very rarely.
We have to minimize our needs, we have to make ourselves happy with the basics, we have to make ourselves engaged with various activities at home.
There is no other way to fight this virus except to stay at home and maintaining a physical distance with others.
I am happy to see that many people have started to explore their hobbies like singing, dancing, painting during these days which probably they cant in their hectic schedule.
We are spending quality time with our kids. Everyday I try to explore something new with my son, may be solving a few maths, doing origami, writing a new story, playing carrom, listening to sunday suspense or watching a movie together.
I think I am lucky to stay at home because of those health workers, doctors, police as also various other emergency authorities who are fighting at the forefront.
I think I am lucky as I can maintain my family without going to work during these lockdown days.
Though my husband is staying far away which keeps me worrying all the time, still I think I am lucky as I can take proper care of my parents, being by their side.
Staying positive and staying at home could only help us in this situation.
We all should learn from the kids. If they can manage themselves staying within the four walls of the house why cant we? We should have more patience than them. But unfortunately over the last few days in the social networking sites I have seen people being impatient, frustrated, depressed & bored and posting various such statements to express their anger & fustration.
Those who think they are bored staying at home, please be happy that atleast you are connected to your near and dear ones as also friends on facebook, whatsapp, twitter etc.
Of course not being able to attend office or going out for work is to be worry about but those who think staying at home with family is boring I feel pity on them.
I think Covid-19 has taught us how to live with the basic needs of us, how to stay at home with family on weekends and of course it is a test of patience.
It is a hard time for us but being stressed and being in anxiety would worse the situation and your mood too.
So let's be calm, be positive and fight this war by staying indoors.

Saying Goodbye has always been so painful

My first painful goodbye was at the age of 21 when I waived my mom from the train and left for my studies to Pune. I still remember how my mom was weeping and how I saved my tears till the train left. Still now when I go back home and at the time of returning I feel the same pain but now there are no more tears in my eyes rather I smile back while saying goodbye to them. 

Another painful goodbye I ever said was to my husband when I went to Budapest on a vacation and while I was returning back to India, because we didn't have any idea about when we were going to meet again. The worst part was that I hold back my tears till I left for my flight but while the flight took off I couldn't control my tears. 

But somewhere in my mind I know that though its hard to say goodbyes to your near ones but after few months or may be after a year I am going to meet them again but what about those goodbyes to those people with whom, may be I wont ever meet. The craziest part of life is that people come in and come out of life, neither one is expected but there are some with whom a bond is created and its really really tough to say goodbye to them. Every time while saying the final bye we tend to say that we would meet someday somewhere in future but the truth is that this never happens. They remain in our memories forever. 

When I left college I found saying goodbye to friends is so tough because it is hard to let go those dear ones with whom we spent most of the day, for years. Always thought of how to live without my best friends with whom I meet everyday and share every thing. Still now when I tend to get close to someone, I fear of saying goodbye to them one day. But life goes on and so we. And when you are not in your home town and constantly moving you have to accept this bitter truth.

But its really difficult to make my son realize the reality of life. Since he is now 4 years old, he knows the meaning of friendship. And being in a foreign country with people coming from different places he too has to face the problem of saying goodbye to his best friends. Very recently his best friend is leaving Finland. After hearing the news I was worried about how Jojo will react. Though I said that his friend is leaving Finland and will not come to school from the next month, he still believes that his friend must be going for a vacation and will be back soon. This is the second time that one of his best friends is leaving the country and I can feel the pain in his eyes. I know he will make new friends, he will enjoy school as usual but somewhere in his memories he will remember them.

The saddest part is that at the time when he started understanding about the meaning of relationships, what friendship is, he has to say these final goodbyes. He is too young to understand "Let things go" but I am sure as he will grow up life itself will teach him this reality.